" Grieving The Loss Of Loved Ones ~ A Journey Of Self Discovery"💫

We all have lost someone we love, who holds a special place in our heart atleast for once in our life. Here, I'm not referring to any particular relation. It could be lossing a close family member,or a close friend or a partner. Though these are different circumstances but to some extent it's affects are same.

When we lose someone special from our life, at first we unable to digest the fact that we won't be able to see that person from tomorrow in our life and their chapter in our life has completely closed down. In the beginning we cry a lot, we ask God " why it was done with me? " But no answer is there.

So, in order to escape from the judgements of others we just try to move on from that situation/phase.  We try several ways to move ahead. But healing doesn't take place in a day  . And few get fed up with the process of healing. So, they just "PRETEND"   in front of others that they are okay and they had "moved on". Futher, they also force their mind to accept it. 

But, those memories still hurt us. When you see their "watch" on your wrist, you break a bit from inside. When you find out the "rose" your partner had given you, you break a bit from inside. When you see those "old pictures" with that friend of yours, you break a bit from inside. All the memories come in front of your eyes like a flim and you feel broken from inside.

At this moment you realise that it's  still affecting you and you have "not moved on yet". And it gives you a REALITY CHECK . 

What it really does? It has several effects. This put us in self doubt, we start questioning  ourselves that "why I hadn't done anything to save?" , " Why did I let him/her go?" 

It even make us blame ourselves, you start to think that ",it was my fault" & I'm the reason for all these". 

Many even start to hate themselves. It puts them in depression & anxiety. Few even become so anxious that they become phobic to many things.

Is there any solution ?

Yes, there are many ways to overcome these. It completely depends upon us that how we are actually see our problems. Instead of keeping your eyes upon the "negetive" aspects , one should always try to find out "positive" aspects of it.

Now it consists of two situations :

~ If the person whom you have lost had a *negetive* role in your life. Then, instead of blaming yourself and questioning God, you should Thank God for what had happened. If that particular person was still there with you, then you might have suffered a lot and it might have even put you into self doubt too.

~ And if that person had a *positive* role in your life. Then instead of grieving over the loss, you should be thankful to God and feel blessed as that particular person had come in your life and made you feel special. Furthermore, donot cry over the loss, be mature and always remember that the person is still there with though not physically but in your heart, always around you.

Moreover, one must learn the nature of LOSS   and trust the process of HEALING  . And instead of pretending to move on, just share you feelings with others , it'll make you feel free.

& Instead of considering it as a " healing process"  , consider it as a " JOURNEY OF SELF DISCOVERY" .

Whenever you feel down just remember this hindi proverb " मन का हो तो अच्छा, न हो तो और भी अच्छा"। 

 (It's been 2 years and 4 days and I still miss you )

See you in the next BLOG. Till then खाओ, पीयो ऐश करो मित्रों 💗🌜

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